What is "Default Mode" and how do I know if I'm stuck in it?
Default Mode is the unconscious survival patterns that keep you running on autopilot, avoiding real feelings, numbing with distractions, and staying stuck in destructive cycles. You know you're in it when you feel restless, disconnected, angry without reason, or like you're just going through the motions of life without actually living it.
What specific issues do you help men with?
Addiction, anger management, feeling stuck despite having success, isolation, relationship problems, lack of purpose, anxiety, depression, and the general feeling of being disconnected from yourself. If you're tired of your own bullshit but don't know how to change it, we can work on it.
How long does transformation take?
Real change isn't instant, but you'll feel shifts from the first session. Most men see significant progress in 30-90 days. The Discovery Package (30 days) helps you identify patterns. The Transformation Package (90 days) breaks them down. The Mastery Package (6 months) creates lasting change. It's not about quick fixes, it's about building something real.
What if this doesn't work for me?
If you're not satisfied after the Discovery Package, I'll refund your money. But honestly, if you show up and do the work, it will work. The men who struggle are the ones who want me to fix them instead of doing the work themselves. This isn't magic, it's showing up and being honest.
Is this therapy or coaching?
Neither. This is direct, practical mentoring from someone who's been where you are. I'm not a therapist or life coach. I'm a man who overcame his own trauma, addiction, and default mode patterns. This is real talk, real work, and real transformation, man to man.
What makes you qualified to help me?
I lived it. I survived cancer twice, battled addiction, and spent years running from myself. I know what it feels like to be stuck in survival mode. More importantly, I know how to break free from it. I've helped men transform their lives for 7+ years. But the real qualification is that I don't bullshit you, I tell you the truth, even when it's hard to hear.
How do the sessions work?
We meet via video call for 60 minutes. I ask direct questions, you give honest answers. We identify patterns, confront truths, and create action steps. Between sessions, you do the work. I hold you accountable. It's not comfortable, but it's effective. No fluff, no feel-good platitudes—just real work.
Is everything confidential?
Absolutely. What you share stays between us. Trust and respect are the foundation of this work. I've been through enough to know that vulnerability requires safety.
What if I can't afford the programs?
Start with the free discovery call. We'll talk about your situation and see if there's a way to make it work. If you're serious about change, we'll figure something out. But honestly, what's the cost of staying stuck? What's the value of finally feeling free?
What if I'm always stuck in the past or future, never present?
That's a classic Default Mode pattern. You're either replaying old mistakes, regrets, and traumas, or obsessing about future outcomes, plans, and "what ifs." You're never actually here, in this moment. This constant mental time travel keeps you disconnected from your body, your feelings, and your life as it's actually happening. We work on bringing you back to the present moment, where real life happens.
How do I know if I'm ready for this?
You're ready if you're tired of your own excuses, tired of feeling stuck, and willing to be honest with yourself. You don't need to have it all figured out, just a willingness to show up and do the work. If you're reading this and feeling something, you're probably ready.
